Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity…- Titus 2:7
Happy New Month my beloved readers! We need to come up with a little name for our Simple Yet Stylish community, don’t you think?
As we’ve come to the final quarter of the year, excitement builds up for Christmas and all the fun Autumn and Winter activities we tend to enjoy. But don’t let that distract you from the fact that 2019 is literally around the corner and its also time to think thoroughly about what your plans and goals may be for the year to come. Have you managed to complete all (or most) of your set goals for 2018? Has there been any major life changes that has caused you fall back or step up? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, do not feel discouraged or disappointed in yourself. According to God, you still have time (His time) to bring a positive outcome from a negative situation (read my previous posts “THE CONFESSIONS OF A BLOGGER I AND II”).
And whilst you’re here, asking yourself these questions, I’d also like to know who your role models are in life? Who are the individuals that inspire you? Your mum? Your older brother? The lady down the street with the nice car? Beyonce? LeBron James? Your manager at work? Your science teacher? Or your favourite social media influencer?….Who do you aspire to be like? After you’ve answered that question, ask yourself why you aspire to be like them? Do you want to follow in their exact footsteps and become everything that they are, or do you simply require the guidance and mentoring in order to follow on your own path of success? The truth is, most of us have someone in mind whom we look up to and seek guidance from. Whether that is God himself or your favourite celebrity. But what we must always remember, is that our lives, our journey on the path of success will always be our own and we will never end up exactly like our role model/s. One important factor we must always consider, is the type of energy our role model/s pours out. Is it good or bad energy? If the answer to that question is yes, then hip hip hooray to that! However, if the answer is ‘no’ or ‘mmmm well… I’m not sure,’ then you may want to reconsider that choice of having someone else as a role model.
In this post, I’m here to discuss the role of an influencer and the impact they have on their followers.
I remember a few years ago, when Rihanna walked the red carpet in an almost transparent sheer dress, with a matching head tie. She received a lot of backlash and compliments for wearing the dress (I must admit, I wasn’t too keen on it). All her lady parts were practically on show. Prior to that, Rihanna was constantly judged for her daring and unapologetic outfits and one of the many statements that was constantly repeated, was the opinion of her being a bad influence on younger women. In an interview (I can’t remember the exact details), she stated that her purpose was not to be a role model to anybody. She was doing her own thing, living her own life and wasn’t bothered at all on what people had to say about her…good or bad. Shortly after that, more and more people began to praise her for everything she did, said and wore! Was this the closure to an ongoing chapter of slander and judgment in the world of RihRih? Yes! She said she wasn’t here to influence people’s decisions in life, so every choice you made was entirely up to you and whether that meant following in her footsteps or not, she wasn’t going to be held accountable for it. If you follow influencers on YouTube you would have probably heard them mention a little disclaimer in their videos or they leave it in their captions or that all important description box. Whether its a fashion haul or a ‘my bbl story’ video, you’ll find that little statement which basically says: “I’m not telling you what to do with your body or what to buy with your money. I’m just sharing my preferences on what I’m happy with etc etc…” fair enough! Now thats not the issue here…or is it? See as an influencer, your job or task is to INFLUENCE people. Its all in the job title my dear…its all in the job title. So when you decide to share that Brazilian butt lift story, at what point did you forget that your story will influence someones decision to either follow in your footsteps or not? And in most cases, you’ll find that people do follow in your footsteps. As a well established fashion blogger, if you upload a fashion haul, showcasing all the latest trends for the new season; and you happen to have a huge group of subscribers who adore your style, surely you’re going to make a bit of cheddar from that affiliate link in your description box because you are an influencer. So when I come across people who choose to share certain content via social media (content that can potentially cause harm or affect someone else life in a negative way) in order to gain more money, more collaborations or exposure but all in a negative way, it really gets under my skin.
If you find yourself constantly stuck in a bad place, whether it is financially, mentally, spiritually or physically and it all comes down to the thoughts you have on someone else life, someone who you may look up to, then you must really do some inner soul searching. And whilst you’re there, search for your happiness, rebuild your strength and grab that self confidence that you’re entitled to. Find someone else who impacts your life in a positive light, to be your role model. It doesn’t have to be the biggest beauty blogger or fashion influencer. Nor does it have to be an A-list celebrity or the rich man down the street with four Range Rovers parked in his driveway. It could be anyone, it can be GOD, it can even be yourself! Just make sure that the energy you feed off of is nothing but good energy. Energy that will push you towards being a better version of you, making a positive impact in your own as well as someone else’s life. You may not know this, but you don’t require 200k followers on Instagram, to be a role model to someone else. As you’re aspiring to follow in the footsteps of someone that inspires you, someone out there is also following in your footsteps because you also inspire them. That doesn’t mean to say you should live your life only to impress people, but try and fill your space with positivity so that the people who do look up to you grab on some of that positive energy too. And as an influencer, particularly in the fashion industry, you must think carefully about the content you put out. Yes, honesty is the best policy but sometimes, some pieces of content is best left in that “forgotten” archive folder. Sharing certain information can affect people in a pretty ugly way and I’m sure that deep down you wouldn’t want to be involved in a bad decision one may choose to make.